EXTREME GRIEVING INTO EXTREME HOPE!

August 26, 2011

When a human passes away it takes three days for the spirit to leave the earth and make a transition to the other side. Over the years we’ve learned the importance of the grieving process . Before the departed can return to the other side we must let go of them as quickly as possible so they can get back to the universal collective consciousness with the knowledge they gained on earth or there’s a possibility they might forget it.

The acceleration of this process I call EXTREME GRIEVING. The harder you grieve initially for a lost one the easier it is for adjustments to be made so you both can move on.

 A long time friend of mine, Normand Kurtz lost his 40 year old son last year. My friend had so much he wanted to say to him before his passing that he wrote a letter to him every day while he was in the hospital making his transition. I suggested to keep writing to him after he passed, however painful it might be, and it would keep their lines of communication open.

Ironically, it was Normand’s songwriter father Mann Curtis (“”GONNA’ LIVE ‘TIL I DIE!”, “ANAME CORE”) almost 40 years ago who got me to write about my own unexpressed emotions.

When I was General Professional Manager of Warner Brothers Music in Hollywood 1974, I came back to New York to go to my Grandmothers funeral. I didn’t plan to conduct any business, but I wanted to drop by our New York offices to say hello.

Henry Marks, who ran our professional department, was in a meeting with songwriter Mann Curtis. I was thrilled and taken aback at the same time. My Grandmother’s name was Winifred Manns…and meeting Mann Curtis at this moment didn’t seem like just a coincidence.

Mann had written the English lyric to “Let It Be Me”, to French composer Gilbert Becaud, Pierre Delanoe’s music, which was not only one of my favorite songs, but was also a level of excellence I aspired to every time I wrote a song myself.

I felt humbled to be in the presence of this man, who looked more like a hip college professor than a Tin Pan Alley songwriter. I felt honored when he shared some of the verses to “Let It Be Me” that didn’t make the final cut…I only wish I had written them down.

As I got up to leave, I told Mann that I stopped being a songwriter when I started plugging songs for Warner Brothers, but I was feeling compelled to write again due to my Grandmother’s passing. He looked at me, smiled and said, “You never stop writing….you never stop being a songwriter.”

Deep in thought… I went back to my hotel and sat crying uncontrollably. Rather than distract myself with the outside world, I stayed in my room and wrote down everything I knew or felt about my grandmother, who was the closest person to me who had ever passed away. I just let it all hang out, and called it unashamedly, EXTREME GRIEVING. The toxic tears I was releasing soon became tears of joy.

During the three-day period, from the time she passed until her funeral …Gooma, as I called her, came to me in my darkened hotel room several times. She talked to me in her usual comforting tone… told me not to cry or be afraid. She smiled and said I should be happy for her…that she was finally out of pain.

She didn’t look like the 83 year old that I revered…but like the thirty year old, whose picture lived in the family album. She sat across from me slightly illuminated by what seemed to be a light coming from within. She told me that we all have guides from the other side who anonymously give us information everyday…but from now on she would be my personal guide.

She told me not to tell my Mother or my aunt Wan about these visits right now…someday they’d understand. Then I remember writing…

From The Inside

by Artie Wayne

Like a star in the midnight sky…your love was there to guide me

When I was weak, too weak to try…you’d be right there beside me

Urging me on…Makin’me strong…”you’d keep sayin’,


“Go on boy…you can do it.

It’s only life… there’s nothin’ to it…

Just the seein’ through it “From the Inside”

I spread my wings, left the nest…swearin’ nothin’ would get by me

I tasted love and I tasted life…but not enough to satisfy me.

But leading me on…makin’ me strong…I heard you sayin’,


“Go on boy…you can do it.

It’s only life… there’s nothin’ to it…

Just the seeing through it From the Inside.”


(Then I stopped writing…I couldn’t trivialize this experience and turn it into a pop song. …But when I put a rose on her casket, as they were lowering her into ground…I was given the final verse.)


Like a star in the midnight sky…that fades into the morning

Came back to show ya’ I could fly.. you were gone without a warning

But lingering on…still makin’ me strong I hear you sayin’,


“Go on boy…you can do it.

It’s only life…there’s nothin’ to it…

Just the seein’ through it…From the Inside.”
Copyright-1974/2006 Rondor music

Of the 15 cover records over the years, including Lynn Anderson, Cilla Black, Yvonne Elliman this demo we did with Janelle Sadler is my favorite! Art Munson and I produced it, and Wedigo Watson directed the video click here  

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6 Responses to “EXTREME GRIEVING INTO EXTREME HOPE!”


  1. Artie,
    So glad you see you post this beautiful song, which has helped so many through the years.
    Patti

  2. steveo Says:

    Thanks for sharing the song lyrics and telling the story…
    I am very honored to have heard it, Artie!

    Best,
    Steveo

  3. Alan Says:

    Artie,
    The song means more to me, now that I know the setting & circumstances. This is a beautiful story.

  4. Denise Says:

    It is a beautiful story and it brought tears to my eyes. I think of my own precious grandma who was the biggest influence in my life..I lost her at a very young age..but she is with me everyday.
    I love the song..thanks for sharing this..

    Denise/the Delicates

  5. Heidi Little Says:

    Eternally gratefull for your love and your light. Thank you for the color you bring to the world. And thank you for sharing.

    Heidi Little


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